I just wrote another article called Women and ADHD I am one of those women who was diagnosed in her early thirties, just two short years ago. Looking back on my life after I was diagnosed it was as if a light bulb went off in my head. A-ha so that has been what has been going on with me. I had no idea what was wrong I just knew something wasn't right -- my ex-husband knew it way before I did. I didn't listen to him though because it sounded to me like criticism and not helpful advice.
I have only been divorced for six months so calling him my 'ex-husband' still sounds odd. Little did I know that people with ADHD are VERY likely to get divorced if left untreated. WELL since I didn't know about it until AFTER we separated and the damage had been done I couldn't fix it. I just hope that by learning more about it I can help myself for the future, along with my three daughters, and all of you who read my articles and blog.
I have had a very hard time coping with my ADHD symptoms and all the emotional baggage that comes with it. I have learned that being a wife and mother are very 'adhd' unfriendly jobs. Boy did I wish I knew about it before I started that journey. It would have made my life a little easier - I would've been able to make proper adjustments knowing that I had difficulties.
One of the ADHD symptoms is that you are not very self observant. Meaning that I wasn't aware of what I was doing and how I came across to others. I didn't always realize that I had done something and would get very defensive if I felt someone was criticizing me "YET again" for something I wasn't even aware of. It was very upsetting for me and those around me.
I learned to build walls around myself to defend myself. Walls that eventually harmed me more than helped but that is something I will save for another day. My self esteem plummeted day after day as life got more complicated. All because I was not only suffering from anxiety and depression but also ADHD. The doctors treated the depression but depression medications didn't work for me.
It took me many years to figure out what would work. It wasn't until last June that I FINALLY figured out what would work for my depression. It wasn't an anti-depressant at all but a mood stabilizer. It was like the light was turned back on for me. I was actually happy -- I had truly forgotten what that felt like. I was very sad at the same time since, ironically I was in the middle of my divorce trial and being happy didn't quite mix so I'm sure I came off to others as "crazy megan" AGAIN. Heck who isn't at a time like that!
Well jump forward to now and I can honestly say I'm not LAZY, STUPID OR CRAZY.....I'm just ADHD.
It's already 4 am -- I was on a roll and got ALOT accomplished today -- hyperfocus! Use it while you've got it!! So when you go visit my site to view the article don't forget to sign up for my mailing list and you'll receive a free copy of How to Conquer Attention Deficit Disorder
That's it for now!